Knowing a little bit about your therapist or counselor can help you choose wisely.

Therapy can offer comfort.

Having a regular time to hear yourself think out loud, explore your feelings and examine your experiences can be really helpful. Therapists try to pay close attention and hold what you are saying with the seriousness that it deserves. Which is not to say that there is not a place for humor!

I recently heard Cheryl Strayed, author of "Wild," say that the heart of empathy is holding people where they are and showing them where they can go. Therapy can help generate alternatives for dealing with specific issues. It can also help those who are having trouble reacting to or relating to others.

Therapy brings patterns into our consciousness so they can be honored for the purpose they once served. Once we know this purpose, we can evaluate or refine patterns so that they can serve us differently. 

When working with couples, I use a developmental model created by Drs. Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson. It emphasizes one's own ability to self define, differentiate, deal with conflict, emotionally regulate and fully share oneself in the presence of another. I also incorporate attachment, psycho-neurobiology and the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. 

My approach is based on Systems theory, which means that I view problems interpersonally. I use Family of Origin theory to provide context for themes and problems as well as strengths and resources.

I have received training in the Masterson approach to personality and character. I have been a part of the training program at the Couples Institute since 2009. ​

I earned an M. A in Marriage and Family Therapy from Pacific Lutheran University in 1987.  I have been licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist in Washington State since 2001.